Five Tips to Help You Stop Procrastinating About Planning Your Funeral

Dec 10, 2021

1. Set a Deadline

 

I’ll get this done … before my birthday, before we travel, before school starts, or taxes are due. It doesn’t matter when, just set a target. It only matters that you do have a deadline, especially if you are a habitual procrastinator.

2. Get In Touch with Your “WHY”

Something made you realize you wanted to get your funeral plan in place. Maybe you had to plan a funeral for someone you cared about? Or, perhaps, you have a family dynamic that makes you see the value of leaving instruction?  Maybe you saw a friend struggle when their spouse died? Whatever it was, write it out, be sure to state your why in positive terms. Instead of “I should,” or, “I need to” tap into that deep motivation. “I want to make my passing is as easy as possible for my wife, daughter, husband.” Post your motivation/why on your fridge.

3. Call the Funeral Home and Make an Appointment

Funeral homes have a funeral professional who can help you. Make an appointment. Put it on the calendar and sit back and relax. 

4. Tell Someone

Share your good news with someone. Tell them when, where, and why you are going to plan your funeral. Maybe ask them to go with you to the appointment if that feels right to you. At the very least ask them to hold you accountable by checking in the day after your planning session to see how it all went.

5. Be Honest with Yourself

As the deadline you set or the date of the appointment you made draws near dismiss those second thoughts. 

· You’ll never be in the mood

· You do have time. You are talking about two hours, that’s all

· Planning won’t kill you and not planning won’t keep you alive forever

We are all grapes becoming raisins there is no getting around it, and it’s not sad.  Raisins are more resilient than grapes and they are sweeter too!

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