This Funeral Home Therapy Dog is Helping Grieving Families Heal, One Smile at a Time
July 7, 2016
JULY 7, 2016 – Featured on Countryliving.com
“Everyone deals with grief differently, and for many it’s all about the healing process. At Ballard Durand Funeral & Cremation Services , in White Plains, NY, they understand the importance of honoring lost loved ones, and in order to help grieving families heal, they’ve brought in a special helper.
Lulu, an adorable two-year-old Goldendoodle, has been the funeral home’s certified therapy dog since May 2015.
Dogs like Lulu offer a certain healing power; called a “Comfort Companion,” she provides affection and support to those in need.
“Humans need to touch,” funeral home president Matthew Fiorillo told TODAY . “Even just petting her can be a subtle distraction from the tremendous amount of grief people are going through.”‘
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The butcher, the baker, the candle stick maker. Does anyone go to the butcher for a candle? Would anyone even think of asking the funeral director for investment advice? The financial advisor, while very knowledgeable about money and investments, has little experience in helping a family honor the life of someone they love.
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Let’s face it everyone will have one, a final resting place that is. The questions you should be asking are where is it? Can it be found in the future should a family member want to do so? Is the final resting place protected? Is it hallowed ground? Will the place endure?
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As we begin to learn more about religious practices outside of our own, it is sometimes surprising to find how much different faiths have in common. Mourners of all faiths understand the power of grief and the comfort of community. So, what happens when a person of the Jewish faith dies, and how can a person outside that faith support a friend or neighbor who is grieving?
